Therapy Since May is mental health awareness month, I thought I would talk a little bit this week about my experience with therapy: I started therapy in June of 2019. I had a very specific goal in mind, which was to talk with someone so they could help me figure…

Anger Last week, I was watching the first Avengers movie with my youngest son and during the final battle scene Tony Stark (Ironman) turns to Bruce Banner (The Hulk) and says, “We need the green guy, now would be a good time to get angry.” to which Bruce Banner replies…

In Defense of the Participation Trophy I was at the gym yesterday and a few of us were joking around before we started working out about the fact that the only trophies we ever won were participation in nature. The idea of a participation trophy has negative connotations, but I…

My predominant internal voice is negative, and that is something I want to change. I have found that wanting something and actually doing something to drive change are two very different things. I’m really good at the wanting, the doing,…not so much. …

The Box For years and years I kept my life in a box. People, places, things, emotions; all tightly packed just how I wanted them to be. Everything had its proper place in that box: things were separated that needed to be, things were buried deep down at the bottom…

Self-Awareness A couple of years ago, I remember having dinner with a friend and talking (bragging) about how self-aware I was. I knew exactly who I was and what my shortcomings were, there were no surprises anymore, I had myself all figured out. When I think back to my confidence…

Control: Let it Go When I had been dating my ex-husband for about 3 weeks I found out, by accident, that he was really bad at money management. His salary was more than sufficient to pay all of his expenses, but he didn’t have much interest in planning or budgeting…

Gratitude I have a lot of negative emotions and feelings about coming out later in life that I am working through. I think it is important for me to continue to reconcile and work to understand those emotions, but I have a tendency to dwell on the negative. …

Ranking The L Word Characters One of the first things I did after coming out was binge watch the show, The L Word. For those not familiar, the show ran on Showtime from 2004–2009 and followed the lives of a handful of lesbian friends and couples as they navigated life…